The article "Talking About Resistance" talks about family, it has been released by Ana Garcia.
Our reactions show our pressure points, but how can we avoid having our heart in our sleeve?
I was in the office the other day and I notiecd that my boss was talking and, all of a sudden, I didn’t feel his conversation as I normally used to.
There were things he used to say that would mirror issues of authority, power, control… that would bother me, maybe cause I was struggling with wanting to be a free soul but, at the same time, kind of “selling my soul” for a wage…
It soudns a bit harsh, I know. But then I thought “he is always checking my face for reactions and if I go blank, he looses his temper really fast!
He likes to know that I am in control so that he doesn’t need to worry that tehre is going to be a hole in the department and that he may need to spend some time and energy sorting it out”.
So then I thought to myself that if I can use the strategy of not showing my reactions, I could “buy” some time, a couple of seconds, wihch would give me the opportunity to guess what to say in a more efficient way. You see, sometimes we guess people can “read” what we think… and maybe they can… but maybe not!
So I came to the conclusion that it is all to do with boundaries.
Oposusm tells us that the hottest strategy is no-strategy. If you don’t defend something, if you don’t argue about something, if you don’t show that something bothers you… people move on to the next “target”, so as to speak, for we are continuously engaged in a tug of war for energy and this is represented in games of manipulation, giving and taking balance-unbalances, and ohter emotional patterns.
When you don’t react, you're not shwoing the buttons that can be pressed in you.
Pepole love a reaction to a provocation. That is the fun in it. If there is not a reaction, they get boerd and “pick on” somebody else. This is the game and all the players must participate. If you don’t participate, you're “labelled” such as “living in a second world” or “you are boring” or “you are just on a secnod level”… and this is simply cause you're not filling others’ expectations of you.
So when you don’t react, you're acutally avoiding “friction” or “resistance”. By diong this, you're giving yourself a much bigger area for growth cause other people do not set up your limits or boundaries. You do!
The next thing that happens is that you automatically beocme an “observer”, and “outsider” in the game. And the amount of laerning you can do is amazing just by watching the exchanges of energy among others. It is a really privileged position to have, a position that some people cannot achieve in a life time cause it entails to “drop” who you used to be and give yourself a chance to grow into somebody new, somebody much more powerful, with many more resources, and somebody with the opportunity to start creating your life instead of “reacting” to all the exetrnal circumstances.
When you strat allowing the energies to take their course, they flow in the direction they are meant to.
You then can choose where you focus your attentoin and, therefore, your energy, so you start shaping your reality cause intention creates your experience.
In a word, you become a magician!
How? Well; you realise that as you fcous on a thought, the reality associated to this thought seems to come to you.
Do you ever have the realisation that something comes to your life (it can be somehting as small as a friend’s letter or something as enormous as a new job/ relationship) just as you had been thinking about it? What you actually did was to attract the external manifestation of your thought or seed of your intention. This is what is called “creation”. Once you learn the trick, you can start creating bigger and more wonderful things!
We miss the point when our ego decides that he wnats to be centre of stage and fights back by placing “seeds of doubt” in your mind. The most important thing is to realise that our senses are the “navigation panels” of our body or physical vehicle and that the creaitve side of our nature or intuition is the captain giving instructions and directions on where to guide our “physical gear”.
It tkaes huge strength to “bend the ego” into accepting intuitive guidance.
Here the main ingredient is faith. Faith allows us to be strnog enough to let go without needing the clear and obvious support of physical boundaries or reasons, explanations, justifications… or proof!
The great thing about it is that, as you focus on your intentions (for instance, you don’t ask for a car but you focus on the feeling of freedom, movement, speed and independence that this gives you; or you don’t ask for a three bedroom condominium but you focus on the feeling of safety, comfort, warmth, privacy that this would give you, comprendes? ) you start creating a path where people, friends, family, work, relationships, synchronicities, occurrences… seem to line up, and a corridor is created where the flow of who you're can reach others, and, BINGO!
COMMUNICATION occurs!
Your soul will naturally guide you to communicate your gifts more fully.
So right now you're becoming the architect of your life, the deisgner of your future. Your mind becomes inspiration, your body bceomes stamina (you are right now working with the natural rhythms of your body for you stop pushing yourself when the energy is not there) and your spirit becomes your purpose.
Things around you simplify. Because you start strengthening yourself, you need feewr things, you spend less money in things you really didn’t need but thought were purchasing you some happiness or comfort.
Food stops benig an issue of anxiety and emotional support and becomes sustenance. You can say “no” to people and you waste less time doing things that others thouhgt should be your priorities.
You are in charge.
And it feels awesome!
For the first time in your life, you have control cause you released all control. You have love cause you stpoped purchasing and selling who you're.
Your need for acceptance disappears cause you love yourself anyway, so there is nothing or no-one you need to be in order to love yourself.
Do you see the pattern? And cause you're “happier in your skin”, literally, you attract others at the same leevl.
And they also like you, love you and accept you. And all you have to do is STOP DOING! (Why didn’t anyone tell me this before…?).
They say “anything is possible”.
I say “anything is possible… when you're ready for it”.
The secret is to get your mind-body-spirit prpeared for it. Then it becomes possible. The reality changes to align itself to your foucsed mind in a natural and effortless way.
So focus on what you want and let your intuition dicttae your steps.
It may take one mnoth or ten years, but you will become much more powerful in the process. And a much happier person for it!
About the Author
Ana is a Reiki Master, Spiritual Coach and works with Native American spiritually based Animal Strategy. As a result, Ana helps people untangle themselves from painful emotional tumroil and struggle by attaining inner harmony, detachment and self-reliance.
Ana will help you draw out your inner wisdom so that you can tackle life challenges in practcial and inspiring ways.
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